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“Behind the Scenes” From a New Bridal Stylist

I love when one of our new bridal stylist shares her thoughts.

We have known Jenna for several years and are very proud to have her on our team.

It is most important to us to ensure our staff feels respected and valued, because when we take care of our staff they will in turn respect, value, and take care of the customers. If you read our reviews you will see that is exactly what happens.

In an emotional business like ours and especially during an uncertain time like this, you need to know your vendors care.

Some other behind the scenes discussion that Jenna doesn’t mention is how our stylists refer to their brides as “my bride”. I love it when I hear those words because to me it means our staff forms friendships and cares far beyond a sale. It is even better because our staff is not on commission, therefore we know that the interest and treatment is genuine. They really do love what they do, and it is incredibly rewarding to be part of someone’s wedding day.

But don’t just take my word for it, read Jenna’s:

First, I feel it’s important to share that I am a Darianna Bridal & Tuxedo bride, and got to say “YES to the dress” in my favorite place, long before I became a Bridal Stylist.

There was something so special about my experience and magical moment at Darianna Bridal & Tuxedo. I knew if I ever had the opportunity, I would love to create that magically special moment over and over again for other brides.

So here I am now and I feel so fortunate to be a Bridal Stylist at Darianna Bridal & Tuxedo. It’s such an honor to work for such a prestigious, family owned and operated business. The owners, Wendy and Franco are truly the most outstanding power couple you will EVER meet. They are the perfect balance of fun, friendly, customer oriented, and business savvy; creating the most perfect and family-friendly, welcoming environment that I never want to leave… and our brides, grooms, family members, bridal parties, and other visitors don’t either!!

Every staff member and customer are treated as if they are part of the family. We promise that every time you come in you will be greeted with a smile from a familiar face. This certainly isn’t something you get anywhere else and I wouldn’t trade it for the world!

Not only is the service five stars (check out our reviews and testimonials), but our gowns are from exclusive top designers from destinations including Australia and Europe including Madi Lane, Kitty Chen, Morilee… and many more!

We realize this is one of the most important decisions a bride will make in her life and that there have been hours of thoughts and fantasizing into this decision of what they will wear when they say I do!

I love that every bride is unique in her personality, style and vibes in her own way. It’s so exciting to go through the appointment with them at such an exciting time and to be able live this moment with them!

I also love that the relationships we create don’t just end at the wedding. Our staff keeps in touch with couples throughout the process with try on appointments, tuxedo appointments, and after the wedding to check in. We also see return customers for future formal events they may be a part of, which is so fun and exciting to have them come back and reminisce on their special day!

We realize the emotions and importance of this and make it so easy for our customers to stay connected that you can even text us at the store, and one of the owners will directly respond! So come on! What are you waiting for? Text the store to make an appointment at 215-491-8500 or visit www.dariannabridal.com for more information. We look forward to serving you soon!

When to Say Yes to the Dress!: Your Go-To Gown Shopping Timeline

Congratulations on your engagement! This is such an exciting time for you, your fiance and your family! One of the first things that comes to mind for a newly engaged Bride is of course, to get THE dress!

You made the decision to commit a lifetime together and now it’s time to pick out your dream gown to say YES to forever in! We are honored to be a part of one of the most exciting experiences as a soon-to-be Bride and we are here to help make the process fun and stress free, and provide an efficient timeline to make the wedding dress process a total success so you feel confident on when to say YES!

The best timeline to buy a dress is 9-12 months from your big day. This gives enough time for the dress to come in from the designer, as well as efficient time to schedule fittings for alterations. We do get your measurements to order your dress so it fits as perfect as possible. Many of our designer’s gowns are made-to-order. It’s very important to give yourself adequate time to avoid late fees and so we can get the dress you love in. If you are working with a shorter lead time or engagement of 4-6 months, it’s no problem. They are typically considered rush orders, and may just incur expedited shipping fees.

There is no right or wrong order as to what sequence in the wedding planning process you get your dress. It may be the first priority on your wedding check-list, or it may be after you select your venue to fit an overall style and feel. Every bride has their own unique approach and we welcome you with open arms whenever you are ready to make your appointment!

Before you come in for your appointment, we recommend you browse some style dresses you like. This is the time where you can get inspired by Pinterest and create a Wedding Gown board! You can get lost in Pinterest for hours… maybe even days! When we schedule your appointment you can even send us a link to your Pinterest Board or you can share images of dresses you like. This allows us to envision exactly what you are looking for and help us find the perfect dresses for you to try on when you get in!

Now that you know the timeline you should be dress shopping, it’s important to know WHEN to say yes to the dress. You will absolutely know WHEN you have your moment. There will be tears, oooh’s, ahhs, and cheers! Our biggest piece of advice is once you have THE gown picked out that you absolutely adore and cannot live without DO NOT second guess it. Stop looking for dresses. Second-guessing will only stress you out, over complicate the situation, and set-you-back in the dress selecting process.

Once the dress is into our store, you get to come in for a try on appointment! Which truly is the most magical moment because you are trying on YOUR own wedding gown for the very first time!! We know how important this is for you, and we even give you an estimated time of arrival via text.

Then voila! You get to bring home your gorgeous gown and can get alterations so it fits your silhouette ever so perfectly. Here at Darianna Bridal & Tuxedo we also have tuxedo and bridesmaid dresses to complete the full look.  Text the owners directly at 215-491-8500 for more details!

Should I Wear a Bow Tie Or Long Tie?

We are often asked whether a groom and the groomsmen should wear a bow tie or long tie on the wedding day.

This is a great question and Darianna Bridal & Tuxedo has a lot of experience and advice on answering it.

Floral Long Tie With Cornflower Tuxedo

So let’s get right to the answer and then we’ll dive deeper into various things you should consider when deciding which type of tie to choose for yourself and your wedding party.

The general answer that we give is do not do something you are not comfortable with. If you are not a bow tie kind of guy, then do not wear one. If you are not comfortable in a bow tie, either it’s look or feel, then you are probably not going to be comfortable wearing one. You will also not be happy with the look.

Allure Mens Box Check Bow Tie with Mulberry Tuxedo

However, things are not always that simple so let’s talk about some other things you may want to consider when deciding. We also have a process that we take customers through to help brides and grooms make their choice. You can read all about that process here.

Usually when we meet with brides and grooms during their tuxedo and suit consultation, we can pretty immediately tell if the couple prefers one type of tie over another. Sometimes, though, they aren’t sure which type of tie they want. We’ll go into how we help them determine which type to choose later in this blog if the couple is not sure.

Ivory Floral Long Tie

If we see that either the bride or groom is not keen on a bow tie, we highly encourage them to stick with the 500 or so different long ties that we offer.

On the other hand, bow ties are not commonly worn by most people and wearing one on your wedding day is a nice way of switching up your look and creating timeless and classy photos.

Classic Black Satin Bow Tie

Best of Both Worlds

In many cases, if a bride and groom are open to a bow tie, we often introduce the idea of the groom wearing the one, say bow tie, and the groomsmen wearing the other type, in this case a long tie. The first thing that this does is help further distinguish the groom from the rest of the wedding party beyond just having a different color tie. The bride and groom sometimes choose to do the reverse and have the groom wear a long tie and the groomsmen wear a bow tie. While this second option is not as popular as the groom wearing the bow tie, we do see it in approximately 5% of the wedding parties.

White Satin Long Tie

Tuxedos, Suits and Ties

Several years ago, it was rare that you would see a groom wearing a tuxedo with a long tie. Today that is completely acceptable. We have many wedding parties and prom goers wearing long ties with their tuxedos and suits. On a few occasions, we will have a groom wear a bow tie with his suit that he purchased or rented from us. So if you want to wear a long tie with your tuxedo that is perfectly acceptable. Again, we advise you doing what is most comfortable for you. Anyone who has worked with us knows that we will tell our customers if their attire choice or combination is not a good idea.

Free Groom Try On

The best way to determine if you prefer a bow or long tie is to try some of each on at your groom try on. We offer all of our grooms the ability to choose up to two different full tuxedos and/or suits with various accessory choices to try on. This is one of our most popular services because the bride and groom get to see what the groom and groomsmen will look like in all attire they choose in the groom’s exact size. During this try on, we will exchange several long and bow ties on the groom so that you can see what they will look like. We even encourage the bride to take pictures of the groom so that you can go home and see what everything looked like and make a decision from there. Read about our full groom try on HERE.

Blush Bow Tie on Cobalt Blue Tuxedo

Trends

What are we seeing for tie choices right now? Many grooms are currently choosing bow ties. Why? We think they like the look and it’s a bit different and more formal. Five to seven years ago we saw more long ties for wedding parties but for now, that seems to have changed.

What If I Don’t Know How to Tie a Long or Bow Tie

You are in luck if you do not know how to tie a long or a bow tie. All of ours (almost 500 different colors and styles) are pre-tied and clip ons. They are beautiful and look like someone actually tied the bow tie without you needing to know how to do it! We do sell some bow ties that you can tie yourself if that is what you are looking for. Our long ties come in two different styles: ones that are pre-tied that you do not need to tie and ones that you tie yourself. If you choose a long tie that must be tied, we can tie it for you and leave it in your garment bag so that all you have to do is slip it around your neck and tighten it. We do this all of the time and the guys are very grateful for this free added service.

Navy Textured Blow Tie on Sandstone Tuxedo

Bottom Line

So the true answer as to whether you should wear a bow or long tie comes down to 100% personal choice. Both will work and we are sure you’ll know pretty immediately what you prefer once you do your groom try on with Darianna Bridal & Tuxedo.

Comment on this blog and tell us what you prefer, a bow or long tie?

Take a look at the 70 or so suits and tuxedos that we offer for rent and sale. You’ll enjoy seeing all of the styles and coming up with your own look. Do you have out of town wedding guests? Not a problem for Darianna Bridal & Tuxedo. We arrange to have your guys measured for free anywhere in the country and can even ship them the tuxedo or suit. They can submit their measurements on our website and even make payment online. It’s as simple as that! You can even text our store telephone number for questions and help: 215-491-8500. Make your appointment with us online to talk to a formal wear specialist.


Mom, She Wants Your Opinion

Few situations are as important to a girl as choosing her wedding dress, and few opinions matter more to her than her Mom’s.

While this is not true in every case, our experience shows it is in an overwhelming majority. Let’s dive into this crazy dynamic of mother-daughter shopping for a wedding dress.

Regardless of who else bride brings to the appointment – sister, best friends, grandmother, godmother, brother, father, wedding planner – the bride will ask, “What do you all think?” The opinions fly, the bride gets confused, the stylist regains control by refocusing the bride in the mirror. The next question is always, “Mom, what do you think?”

To me, this is one of the sweetest moments.

There are four ways this is answered:

  1. “I love it!”

Some moms love pretty much every dress her daughter tries on. It is so cute to watch her excitement as she takes pictures and gushes. This doesn’t help the bride make her decision, but it definitely adds to the fun and excitement of trying on.

2. “I don’t like that at all.”

This dress is typically removed immediately. With this dress, the bride usually knows the response and tells us in the dressing room, “My mom isn’t going to like this.”

3. “Eh, it’s not my favorite but if you like it that’s all that matters.”

This is a great one, because we get to dive into ‘why’ it isn’t her favorite. Mom treads very lightly here, in case it is her daughter’s favorite. She doesn’t want to upset her or cloud her judgement. Nevertheless, the bride does want to know what her mom sees in this dress versus others.

4. “It’s your dress, I’m not giving my opinion.”

This is the worst answer a mother can give. Mom may think she is being helpful, but the bride needs her support – especially if there is a group giving opinions. When the bride asks everyone, and then specifically asks for mom, she needs her help. If mom won’t ever answer, the bride can’t get excited about any of them.

Why would this one opinion be so important to a bride?

TRUST.

Mom has known her daughter the longest, has felt the ups and downs of her daughter’s life harder than her daughter, has her back, and will never steer her in the wrong direction. Bride knows this and is relying on her.

This is not to say that the bride and mom have the same taste, they rarely do, but they both know when it’s the right dress.

It also doesn’t mean the bride won’t say yes to a dress that isn’t mom’s favorite. When mom gives her opinion and bride can weigh that out with her own, it is far more helpful than when mom won’t give any opinion.

The reason brides bring their mothers to this meaningful event is not only to share the experience, it is also for guidance, reassurance, and assistance. The stylist will help choose, answer questions, and give pros and cons, but mom’s approval of her choice is a weight off the bride’s shoulders.

Again this is not true in every case, some girls will come alone to choose their favorites and then bring Mom back to select from those. Some brides unfortunately don’t get along with or have lost their mothers and will bring a different trusted person and rely on him/her the same way.

Mom’s opinion definitely matters!

This is why we suggest limiting the group helping the bride shop. The number of opinions can be overwhelming when really it’s just one or two that truly matter and the most important opinion is the bride’s. So Mom, if she asks for your opinion, she really wants it. It doesn’t mean she’s going to listen to it (probably like she didn’t listen to you sometimes growing up…), but she definitely wants to know what you think because you matter very much. She wants your yes, so she can say yes!


The Color Of Your Wedding

Color sets the mood. The right colors in your home can create a calming oasis, the right colors on your clothes can bring out your best features. What about the colors of your wedding?

We’ve often wondered where these color palette “trends” come from year after year. Some seem to last two months, yet others are classic and never go out.

For 2020, the color is Pantone’s classic blue:

Instills calm, confidence, and connection

Which is quite different from 2019’s color, which was Pantone’s living coral:

If you’re trendy and like to follow these guidelines, there are hundreds of palettes already put together that will make a lovely statement. And because there are hundreds, it can also give you a massive headache.

Maybe you have no interest in what the color of the year is (um, me?!) and your Pinterest board is full of many lovely colors and you don’t know where to start.

Here is some help!

  • Look at your setting and season. Are you getting married at a rustic stone property in June, a woodland setting in October, a winter wonderland in January? Clearly all three of these have their own flavor and colors that will lend perfectly to them, regardless of what is trendy. Think about your venue, the season, and get inspired that way!
  • Think about the mood you want to set. For instance, you may want to have a small wedding reception, but still want glamour. This can definitely be done and in a striking way with the right palette. Metallic colors lend beautifully to this! Or maybe you want soft and romantic. Fire engine red may not be your best choice to set that mood, but it would be a perfect color to display a classic love story full of passion and emotion.
  • If you’re so inclined you can look up what each color means and maybe be inspired that way. Maybe one of these colors really represents your relationship and you can build around that as well.
The meaning of colors
  • Always consider at least one nature color so your flowers can blend.

Once you have an idea of colors, choose your favorite as your base. That color will be used predominately throughout your wedding. Then you will want to use the other 2 to 3 as coordinating accent colors. These can be either contrasting or neutral which ever you prefer. Your maids, flowers, linens, invitations, and possibly even your cake will have these colors as well.

If you are having trouble picking additional accent colors, consider ombre or gradient colors in different shades of your favorite, or neutrals that tie everything together.

A neutral color will work with any palette

Choosing your colors is an important part of planning your wedding! Put some thought into it, and be sure it makes sense to you. Enjoy the process!

Having A Minimony? We’ve Got You!

Out of the darkness of a pandemic comes one of the cutest terms we’ve ever heard: the minimony.

If you were forced to postpone your wedding, you may already be considering having a minimony. Many couples are doing this and if you look on the bright side of having to move your wedding date, it’s two celebrations to look forward to!

A minimony is simply a smaller ceremony on your original wedding date with fewer people. Perhaps at home in the backyard or another outdoor setting, still very much a wedding ceremony only on a smaller scale. The “sequel” wedding is your rescheduled future date, where the big party and celebration can be had with all your guests in person.

If you had to postpone your wedding, you already have your dress for the big day. If you are having a minimony, that dress probably isn’t going to work for a small wedding in the backyard. However, this is still a wedding ceremony and needs to be complete with an appropriate dress… but…

You don’t want to spend thousands of dollars again. Where do you look? With us, of course!

Many of our brides are in this position and some told us they are ordering dresses online only to send them right back. They think they will work because they are cheap, and when the dress arrives, they realize why it was so cheap. They don’t look or feel anything like the online photos and are incredibly disappointing.

We are happy to be able to help. Many of our brides are already booked to come back when we reopen on June 5th to take a look at our incredible sample rack.

Romantic sample from Beloved Bridal

These are high-quality designer dresses and are available at substantial discounts, very comparable to online pricing. This allows the brides to see them in person, try them on at our store, save time, save money, and get right to the seamstress for easy and quick alterations.

Beautiful Voyage dress for outdoor garden wedding

And really, who doesn’t want two dresses? Show different sides of you! For instance, perhaps the original dress is a fancy, sparkly ballgown complete with cathedral veil and tiara, but the backyard dress is a sweet, bohemian lacy one that works with a flower crown.

Or maybe the original dress is a satin, but the minimony one is crepe – both are classic plain fabrics, but crepe doesn’t have the weight or the shine which makes it a bit more appropriate for a smaller, summer gathering outdoors.

Gorgeous Morilee crepe dress with lace train

For the grooms, a full on tuxedo may not fit the bill either for a minimony. We have this covered as well.

Consider a suit or pants with a vest or suspenders and no jacket. The accessory colors we have allows you to put together the perfect look whether casual or ultra formal.

Navy Verona suit with suspenders

Long or bow tie can change the look, do what works!

Tweed vest and long tie looks rustic

Maybe a lighter color, try a sand or cornflower blue. We have them all!

Sand color tuxedo
Cornflower blue, wear with or without jacket

Whatever you decide, give us a call. If you’re doing the minimony and/or waiting for that one big day, we’ve got you! We offer great pricing for wedding dresses, along with suits and tuxedos, or if you just need accessory pieces. Make your appointment here!


New Safety Procedures For Re-Opening

Darianna Bridal & Tuxedo’s calendar is filling up again and our new procedures will ensure that we are ready to safely welcome everyone on June 5th!

Our new brides will enjoy new dresses from Madi Lane, Morilee, Casablanca, Kitty Chen, and more…

Grooms will love dressing up in our new 2020 tuxedos – over 70 different styles to choose from…

All of our rescheduled couples will be welcomed back with open arms and distance hugs, which totally stinks because we are huggers here…

Which brings us to the changes we must make. With reopening comes new responsibilities and requirements that must be adhered to so that we can ensure everyone is as protected and safe as possible. Please take a moment to read these new procedures.

** If you are not feeling well, we ask that you reschedule the appointment. If someone in your group is not feeling well, we ask for that person to join you by video call. **

Until the CDC and Pennsylvania guidelines are changed, we will enforce the following:

  • Masks must be worn by staff and customers. We have them available for free, but we ask for a donation to our local Bucks County food bank.
  • Limit of 3 guests for bridal.  Special arrangements must be made for larger groups. This is for proper distancing recommendations. WiFi is available for video attendees!
  • Walk-ins are welcome, however we ask you to call or text our store telephone number before entering to make sure we have appropriate space and staff.
  • Children under 13 are no longer allowed (unless being measured for a tuxedo or suit).
  • Tuxedo groups over four (4) will require appointments and/or must adhere to current distancing recommendations.

Other measures we have to keep you safe are:

  • Contactless payment methods are encouraged when possible including Apple Pay, Google Pay, Samsung Pay, and credit cards with contactless features.  We have always accepted contactless payment methods and are sure we will find more interest in their use from our customers.
Contactless payment methods
  • Hand sanitizers made available for use throughout the store.
  • HVAC inspection completed and commercial grade filters replaced on a regular basis (this has always been one of our procedures).
  • Cleaning/disinfecting will take place throughout the day and daily at closing by our staff.

General Safety Tips:

  • Consider limiting the number of stores visited in a day to reduce the amount of exposure to you and your guests.
  • Make a conscious effort to wash your hands with soap for 20 seconds or use hand sanitizer that is at least 60% alcohol.
  • Wear a mask, even if not directed to do so.
  • Use contactless payment methods wherever possible.
  • If there is a senior in your group, consider setting them up on a video call or ask staff if there is availability for a more private appointment. Try not to subject them to large crowds. Darianna Bridal & Tuxedo has the space to protect your loved ones – please let us know in advance if you plan on bringing a senior to your appointment so we can arrange accordingly.

In addition to these, please read our blog on our cleaning company and how they have adapted new cleaning procedures specifically to deal with COVID-19. It is extremely important to us that our customers feel safe and confident entering our store! Make your appointment here and as always feel free to text us with questions at 215-491-8500!

Feel Confident That Our Bridal and Tuxedo Store Is CLEAN and SAFE

Soon the restrictions will be lifted and we will all venture back out into the world. When I do, I personally expect that every establishment I enter knows how to clean in the age of COVID-19 and is committed to keeping me and their other customers safe.

But just how do we know that a store that looks clean actually is? Let’s take our own store as an example.

Our family owns and operates Darianna Bridal & Tuxedo and prior to the mandatory shutdown, we spent more time in the store than our own home. Since opening in 2013 we have always had store cleanliness as one of our top 3 priorities. We have used the same cleaning company for years: Bugajewski Facility Services.

We were introduced to this company when the owner, Ben Bugajewski, was the featured speaker at a Central Bucks Chamber of Commerce meeting. I didn’t think I would enjoy listening to a speech about cleaning, but when Ben started talking I was weirdly fascinated.

Ben and his company clean a number of medical facilities in the area and beyond, including both Pavillions at Doylestown Hospital. They have done this for years, and have always had a focus on exactly what “clean” means. If they didn’t keep medical facilities clean, then they weren’t safe.

I perked up a little bit after hearing this introduction. It only got better from there.

His knowledge of bacteria and germicides was incredible. He knew what bad guys made us sick and what chemicals killed them. He knew which chemicals were safe for humans and which chemicals required humans to stay away for a few hours.

Ben so easily pronounced names of bacteria, most of which had way too many letters, and I knew he was going to clean our store.

We could not be more proud to have Ben and his company continuing to not only clean our store, but also training us and giving us the products we need to make sure that you and your family are just as safe as we are when you enter our doors. There are products we use once daily and others we use throughout the day.

To that end, Ben sent us the certification he earned this month taking an online training course administered by the Global Biorisk Advisory Council regarding proper cleaning and disinfecting techniques with an emphasis on SARS-CoV-2 / COVID-19. I can’t be sure of other stores, but we are prepared and ready to reopen!

Cleaning Certification for COVID-19

How has Ben’s cleaning procedures changed with the onset of COVID-19?

With the outbreak of the COVID-19 virus, the EPA released a listing of  Products with Emerging Viral Pathogens AND Human Coronavirus claims for use against SARS-CoV-2 . “We began to use 2 additional RTU germicidal detergents with a 2 minute contact time against the virus compared to a 10 minute contact period. Due to the significant time period for delivery of these products we have sourced them directly from the two different manufacturers to maintain adequate inventory levels.”

In addition, he says, “We also are doing more frequent cleaning and disinfection of high touch surfaces, have used color coded micro fiber cleaning cloths for years, and have spent significant funds in the latest available cleaning equipment to assist our staff in removing soil prior to the disinfection process.

Since I started the company in 2004 we have always used two EPA registered quaternary hospital grade germicidal detergents for disinfection. One was an acidic based product and the other was an alkaline based product.

We used another EPA registered product which is based on free available chlorine Hypochlorous acid which is 4x more disinfection power that the hypochlorite ion. It is more active in the presence of organic loads and has a longer shelf life. It also has a label claim against c difficile spores which are extremely difficult to eliminate in a health care setting.

We are also doing additional education with our client base making sure that they are using compatible cleaning chemistries during the day for their internal cleaning.”

Now that you know our store is cleaned like a hospital, be confident we are ready for you!

Let’s get back to how do you know if a store is actually clean?

Ben published an article in 2005 in Professional Retail Store Maintenance Association that ranked store cleanliness as the most important attribute that a consumer was seeking. “A consumer in a retail clothing location focuses on the cleanliness of the front entrance, fitting room areas, cash check out areas and the store restrooms. There should be no visible soil in these areas of the store,” Ben wrote.

I then asked him how can someone feel confident that an establishment is clean? What does he look for when entering a store or restaurant? Of course, the all areas of the store need to look and smell clean, but beyond that he also looks for the following:

Are the employees wearing clean uniforms or clothing?
Are the employees taking any special precautions between clients/customers?
Are there adequate hand washing facilities available? (Hopefully they are not topping off their hand soap dispensers!)

Ben also intends on reviewing more frequently local health department inspection reports. GOOD idea!

We hope you enjoyed reading this blog. It was fantastic for me to write this as I have a renewed appreciation and confidence in Bugajewski Facility Services, and the cleanliness of our store!

We can’t wait to welcome you back – make your appointment here!

Social Media: Is It Hurting Your Relationship?

With most everything closed and everyone at home, we are on social more than ever. While I am on these platforms mainly for business purposes, I still come across the couple posts. You know the ones, the too-cute #couplegoals pics that can make you feel like your relationship is missing something:

  • You ordered take out but while your eating, you decide to check Instagram and it shows your friend drinking a glass of wine, looking adorable and super excited to be cooking together with her new boyfriend…
  • A cozy movie night at home is going great, until he checks his phone and you wonder if he’s bored with you and wishes he were with his friends…
  • Your partner is constantly checking his/her phone and you feel ignored…

Are you giving (or getting) a vibe that who and what you have isn’t enough? That’s damaging and needs to be worked out properly. If you are happy in your relationship then you want to be with your partner and not constantly on social media.

If you prefer to be on social media then you need to reevaluate your relationship.

If your relationship is doing well and you are happy then you need to do the following when you get that insecure feeling:

Stop comparing! If you have a great relationship that you continue to work on and improve (because you do, every single day), you are already the envy of others. You don’t need to post constantly because other opinions do not matter. You can, however, post some pics simply because you are proud and not because you are trying to create a phony image.

Pay attention! When you have quiet or special time with your love, give your full attention. Don’t pull out your phone when it will make him/her feel you are bored wishing you were elsewhere.

If your partner uses social media to a point that bothers you, you need to be very upfront and explain your feelings. The more open you are with each other the better your chances of a successful and happy relationship.

Don’t let Facebook ruin your relationship. You can use social media in a healthy and fun way, but make time for just the two of you. A great way to reconnect is to put those phones away for a certain time every day and do something together, just the two of you, like take a walk or make dinner. Let the others try to convince everyone how rock solid they are, while you sleep with a smile knowing you don’t need to bother!




How To Say Yes When You Won’t Stop Looking

Have you asked any of these questions:

“Do brides say yes on the first time out?’

“Do brides really buy the first dress they tried on?”

“Do brides ever buy without going to other stores?”

“Do brides buy without asking all their friends what they think?”

The answer to all of these is yes. In this blog we will discuss the bride who can’t say yes and if it resonates with you, hopefully our advice will help you through saying yes with confidence.

The most challenging bride is the one who cannot stop looking. She brings with her a group of eight on a Saturday morning, tries on 15 dresses, finds one she loves. She cries, everyone loves it… and then the question: “Are you saying yes to this dress?” She looks completely confused and says, “No, I can’t buy yet/at the first store/until I sleep on it/without my grandmother/without looking elsewhere.”

Aren’t you looking to say yes? Why did you bring this group to give so much attention and love to you and then say no when you are crying and they are so supportive?

Bride continues to shop all day, ending exhausted and confused with a list of maybes and one she really loves. She makes more appointments at other stores.

This bride refuses to say yes for months.

She finally makes a return appointment to retry the dress on that she loves, the one that made her cry, the one she can’t stop thinking about. She obsesses over photos, looks at it online, gets opinions of strangers on wedding websites.

She brings her group back again, although fewer attend. She still loves the dress.

“I really think maybe this is it, but did you get any new ones in that I haven’t tried?”

I ask, “How many stores have you been to? How many dresses have you tried on?”

Some brides tell me they’ve gone to 10-12 stores, even some in different states. That is at least 100 dresses tried on.  One hundred wedding dresses and a bride still can’t pull the trigger. Not only that, her group is tired (“Just get it already!”) and the bride is stressed out (“Don’t push me into making this decision!”)  It has become a chore. Instead of that first perfect moment to say yes with the emotion and the hugs and the support, it is now a frustrating disappointment because you are over a month into looking and still can’t say yes to the dress you came back to.

Why?

“I’m not getting the reaction I want.”  – But you did the first time and ignored it…

“I don’t know if my fiance will like it.” – Your fiance loves you, and will love you in whatever dress you choose…

“What if I don’t like it later?” – You loved it the first time and you still do…

“I’m worried I might find something I like better.” – After 100 dresses, you think #105 will be the one when you’re back in the original dress?

“I don’t make decisions quickly.” – You immediately knew the venue, your bridal party, and you immediately said yes to the marriage proposal…

At some point, you need to be confident in your dress decision and move on with the planning. It’s your day and you will be radiant in the dress you choose!

The dress should make you feel gorgeous, you never want to take it off.  You want to wear it to work, out to lunch, everywhere. When you find that dress, SAY YES. Stop looking because you won’t find one to beat it. If there is a dress you compare all others to, that’s the one. It doesn’t matter if your to-be sister in law didn’t react the way you wanted, it’s not her wedding or her dress.

You now must also consider the health implications of going to so many stores.

Our advice is always the same to brides who call themselves “indecisive” but made many decisions already with no problem:

1. Don’t bring a large group. If you want to show them, bring them to your try on, or plan a reveal to show them what YOU chose. They will cry when they see you in it! Many stores now limit the number of guests due to social distancing so that decision could be made for you.

2. Limit the choices. It’s like going to a restaurant with a 10-page menu… you went in wanting the steak but now you might want something else, because it might taste better, even though you really want the steak…

3. Be your unique self. Don’t buy a dress that others love on you but you don’t, one that reminds you of everyone else’s, or because it’s trendy now. Find unique designers or ones you can customize if needed.

4. Trust yourself. The dress you love is the right one and everyone will love you in it.

5. Buy from a reputable store. Read reviews! Are they known for great customer service, responsiveness, and truthfulness? Do they adhere to new laws and regulations? (WE ARE, AND WE DO!)

Yes, brides do say yes on the first day out, at the first store, to the first dress, without dozens of opinions from the people with them. You can, too! Let us help you enjoy the bridal appointment process and trust yourself!