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So, You’re the Mother of the Groom

There’s an old adage about the mother of the groom and the role they play in weddings: “Be quiet and wear beige.”

We beg to differ. If you’re the mother of the groom, you have a very important role in this wedding.  You brought the groom into the world, and helped make him the person he’s become. You have the right to be beautiful, confident, and — we dare say — sexy.

You might get along fabulously with everyone involved in the wedding and feel like you have free reign to do what you want to do and wear what you want to wear.

Or you might feel anxious, not sure what to do. If that’s the case, here are a few etiquette tips to help you make your son’s wedding a wonderful day:


  • Ask the newly-engaged couple if they have a preference of what they want you to wear.  When in doubt, ask the couple!
  • Let the mother of the bride choose her gown first.  Unless this has been mutually agreed otherwise, she goes first.
  • Consider venue, location, time of day, and probable temperature, as well as any religious or cultural customs.
  • Choose a color that complements the color palette of the wedding. Depending on the other colors chosen, metallic, navy, wedgewood, pewter, plum and purple shades are good options.
  • Start looking about 6-9 months before to get an idea of what styles you like.
  • Order your gown 5-6 months in advance.  Some gowns can take 3-4 months to arrive.


  • Assume you will look “frumpy.”  These days, mother-of-the-groom dresses  can be stylish, trendy, and chic. You will surprise yourself at how great you can look!
  • Attempt to out-do the mother of the bride.  Compliment her and the party.
  • Wear white or ivory, or the same color as the bridesmaids.  Unless directed otherwise, it is also advisable to avoid black and red.
  • Pick a size based on what you “intend” to be at the wedding.  Buy your gown in the size you are and have it taken in, if necessary.  You’ll be happy you did either way.

motherofthegroomTo help ease any fears, we take pictures of many of our moms in gowns they like and text them to the couple to see how they like the style and color.

Go shopping with an open mind, be realistic that the ones you saw on line (on the model) may not look the same on you, and know that your dress is out there!

In fact,  the perfect dress for you and for any mother of the groom in Bucks, Montgomery or Philadelphia counties is waiting for you here at Darianna Bridal & Tuxedo.

Our consultants will bring that beautiful, confident woman out and you will look and feel radiant on this most special day.

Contact us today to make an appointment, and take a look below at some of the moms we’ve helped do more than just wear beige.

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